Drug addiction can and does eventually ruin everything. And not just for the addict, but for everyone who loves them too. Once on top of the world in the country music group The Mavericks and married to Trisha Yearwood, bassist and vocalist Robert Reynolds has finally been fired from the band that he founded due to many years of issues caused by his addiction. His friends and fellow band members are devastated that he has refused many offers to get the help he needs while he continues to spiral out of control.
In a candid interview in Rolling Stone, his now former bandmates, singer Raul Malo, drummer Paul Deakin and guitarist Eddie Perez, all gathered last week in a conference room at the Mavericks’ record label offices in Nashville to speak to Rolling Stone Country and set the record straight, Reynolds is in the grip of an opiate addiction and has been unable to record or tour. Reynolds did not respond to requests from the magazine for ‘his side of the story.’
Opiate addiction has truly become a nationwide epidemic. Sadly and tragically, Reynolds downward spiral is just the predictable path that all addicts who are unwilling or unable to get help and quit will eventually end up on.
The road of untreated addiction almost always leads to losing everything that TRULY matters in life. Losing your job, your home and the people who love you, who have to eventually stop ‘enabling an addict’ to continue to wreak havoc in the lives of everyone around them. Nobody EVER wants to ‘give up’ on someone they love, but just like Reynolds friends and bandmates have come to realize, the bottom line is:
You CANNOT help someone who does not WANT to quit using drugs, period.
For anyone who loves and cares about and tries to help an addict, myself included, this is the toughest realization ever. But there comes a point in time where you simply cannot continue to let an addict ruin your life too. I speak from my own personal experience with close family members whom I love with every ounce of my heart and soul, people I continue to PRAY for, and keep HOPE for…that they will come to a point in their lives where THEY decide “enough is enough” and want to get help, quit using, get counseling and stay clean and sober.
My door will always be open to my loved ones if they decide to get help and I will support them in any efforts they may make towards sobriety, that is a fact. My heart is filled with empathy and forgiveness for the pain that my addict family members have caused me in the past. I harbor no hard feelings and I KEEP HOPE and continue to pray every day for them. But I have learned to draw a line, no more enabling or ‘helping’ or bailing them out of legal issues or situations they get into due to their drug addiction because they ‘CHOOSE to USE.’ And I remind myself every day, ‘as long as they are still alive, there IS HOPE!
My heart goes out to Robert Reynolds, and his family and friends and I am praying that he will choose to get the help he needs. Read more about Reynolds and how The Mavericks are coping with firing their friend here in Rolling Stone.